If you live in Nigeria, I beg you to try and buy petrol today as the owners of the oil, the Nigerian Union of Petroleum and Natural Gas Workers (NUPENG) have begun a 3 days 'warning' strike today, and if you have experienced the fuel scarcity that comes with one of their strike actions, you'd understand what I'm hinting at. One day strike from NUPENG affects fuel supply for for days. It is bad that at every point in time, a sector of this nation's economy will hold the country by the balls through strike action, although I don't always blame them. Strike action seem to be the way to get this government's attention. Anyway, that's by the way.
You guys know I don't do gossip and breaking news (despite some of my readers' pleas to delve into that)hehehe... I'm still not interested, but that does not mean I won't talk about any story or news event that I feel worth talking about.
So, we all remember when our Tiwa and her husband and former manager, Tee Billz broke up, with accusations flying left, right and centre. There were accusations of infidelity, on both sides, financial recklessness resulting in debts running into millions of naira, neglect of parental roles, even to the extent that external families were also roped into the matter when the husband said his mother-in-law was a witch who was responsible for his failures in life.
A lot of people took sides, argued for or against the husband and wife. Trust Nigerians, they even abused them more than the grieving spouses, forgetting that in matters of the heart, you never say never. Now the couple is back together, having worked on their relationship over the months. The comments are back as we have refused to let them make-up in peace too.
See, they say different strokes for different folks. Some people tolerate worse things and remain in the relationships, some will not tolerate such public humiliation. We have strange relationships all around us, and we cannot use what we'd do to judge what another would do. Like I said, when it comes to the matters of the heart, you can preach, counsel, advice, etc, but the heart wants what the heart wants, and will go after it even if it it to its own detriment.
I and some people saw this reconciliation coming so I wasn't surprised that it happened. Now, would you forgive and accept a spouse who cheated on you repeatedly, called your mother a witch who hindered his success, accuse you publicly of cheating with numerous men, allegedly used hard drugs, etc? That is a personal choice, which should be respected. That you won't accept such a spouse back doesn't make the person that decides to forgive and let go stupid or weak. Forgiving requires more strength, in case you do not know. I sincerely hope things get better for them, and that they have both learned from this. I wish them well.
To everybody who wants to forgive and let go but is afraid of judgement from people, know that no one really cares. Do you and what makes you happy. If someone is truly remorseful and you're convinced he/she has turned a new leaf, by all means forgive, if that's what your heart tells you to do. Forget about what people will say. At most we'd talk about it for two weeks, before another news grabs our attention. Don't let people's opinion deprive you of true happiness.
Enjoy your day folks and show love to one another.
Peace...
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