Wednesday 27 July 2016

#ThingsWeShouldStopSaying



There are phrases, terms, sentences we use that have become such clichés that I feel we should stop saying them, seriously. Maybe we say them because we grew up hearing them and we haven’t really paused to consider their meaning and appropriateness in today’s world, or we just feel they will help the hearer whereas I think they don't.

No matter what people and ‘believers’ think, I still don’t like the term ‘it is well’! Some see it as a confession of faith, believing that things will be well when they clearly aren’t. How can someone tell you he’s hungry with a sick baby in the hospital and you respond ‘it is well’? How has that ‘confession of faith’ helped the person? If you cannot proffer a solution to someone’s problem, how will saying ‘it is well’ make things well for the person?? I still believe that faith without work is dead. You cannot wake up with the knowledge that there’s not food in your house, yet you sit at home, cross your legs and believe that ‘it is well’. Of course you’d get up to look for food. Saying a prayer for that person to get help is even preferable, if you cannot help.

Why do people still say ‘two wrongs cannot make a right’? Yea, I know two wrongs cannot make a right, but it surely stops one side/person from taking the hit all the time. Don’t tell me that two wrongs do not make a right, one wrong is bad enough. Am I supposed to keep quiet and keep getting hit and don’t hit back because two wrongs don’t make a right? Two wrongs might not make things right, but at least both parties will feel the pain. That’s my own opinion.

Another thing I feel we should discourage people from saying is ‘don’t wash your dirty laundry in public’. It surely encourages the culture of silence that we desperately need to break in our society. People are encouraged to hush hush everything going wrong in their lives, without knowing that speaking up can actually save them. A woman is going through all manner of abuse in her home and people tell her to keep quiet and not ‘wash her dirty laundry in public’. Please please please, wash the dirty laundry in public o, if they have holes in them, someone might help you stitch them up real good. If there are stains, someone might help you with solutions on how to wash them off. We like to suffer in silence and pretend all is well. That’s why high blood pressure is on the increase and sadness and bitterness fill our hearts because we bottle-up a lot inside us. I know there are a lot of ‘frenemies’ and we cannot tell who to trust, but silence will not help us in any way.

That’s it for now…

In other news, did you hear that some of the people nominated to represent Nigeria as Ambassadors couldn’t recite the National Anthem? I wasn’t surprised when I heard it; if you attend government function and try to read the lips of the dignitaries as they sing the National Anthem, you’d probably burst out laughing as a lot of them cannot sing it, not to even talk of reciting the National Pledge. Well, that’s by the way.

Hope you’re staying warm with this incessant rainfall, to avoid a visit to the doctor. Also clear your gutters and drainage around your neighbourhood to prevent flooding.


Hugs…

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