Get those boys domesticated!

It not uncommon to hear women complain that their husbands are not domesticated at all! They don’t help around in the house; they expect the women to work, cook, clean, raise babies, and still remain fabulously sexy. O di egwu!! Wives complain that their men are like that probably because their Mothers-in-law didn’t do a good job of getting them a tad domesticated.

In the olden days, men worked, women stayed at home and took care of the children. However, with the harsh economic situation presently being experienced all over the world, men and women work, except your husband is a zillionaire and meets all your financial needs. It is therefore not fair for the man to get home from work (sometimes before his wife does), sit back and wait for the woman to come back and cook for him, do the children’s homework and take care of the house. Everybody works, and everybody is tired biko.

However, to the women that complain about their men being undomesticated; how are you raising your own sons??. He’s your son today, but he’ll become somebody’s husband tomorrow. We live in a patriarchal society, I know, where the male child is seen as more important than the female child; mothers often spoil the boys, virtually turning the daughters into their brothers' slaves. The sons watch cartoons and play all day, while the girls clean and do all the house chores; then you think the boy will automatically grow into a domesticated man tomorrow?? How??? Is it by magic??? He rejects what you’ve cooked and which everybody else is eating, then you make different food for him; he’ll grow up to demand for fresh soup everyday o! LOL (I don’t even know how the women cope with such). Abeg, make una make am easy for your future daughters-in-law!

Remember, the son you over-indulge and allow to walk about with an air of self-entitlement because he’s a male child will become someone’s undomesticated husband tomorrow, and your daughter-in-law will secretly curse you in her heart for not training your son to help out in the house. While you are training your daughter to become a good ‘wife material’, don’t forget to train your son to be a good ‘husband material’ deserving of the wife a fellow mother has laboured hard to raise properly.

Hugs…