Entitlement Mentality

Good morning everyone,

How was your weekend? Hope good. Mine was restful, with Big Brother Nigeria and the internet, I was good; yea I love the show, sue me! LOL. 

Today I want to write about something we're mostly guilty of, 'entitlement mentality'. That syndrome where you feel that a privilege is a right and something your deserve and should get. I know we might disagree with this statement. but before you rush to deny it,

check these characteristics of someone with an entitlement mentality: someone who never appreciates the sacrifices of other, who never takes responsibility for his actions, refusing to accept the fact that actions has consequences, always self-serving and feel you must be a priority at all times, you feel people owe you, you see everything as a competition which you must win, and refuse to negotiate or compromise, etc. Any of these sound familiar?

As a parent who has trained his/her children, do you believe they owe you for all that you supposedly did for them? They didn't ask to be born you know? Your responsibilities to your children include sound education, food, clothing and shelter until they complete their education. Your children are not investments that you must reap from years later. As a child, your parents responsibilities are listed above, and they do not include setting up a huge trust fund for you, establishing businesses for you, providing money for you to get married, etc. These are merely privileges for which you ought to be very grateful. Some of us with rich siblings, relatives, friends, and even bosses sometimes feel that they owe us. That is why we hear statements like 'he doesn't even give anybody anything', 'he won't even help us', 'he has all that money but will not give us, not even his connection'. The bitter truth is that nobody owes you shit! Now, I'm not saying it's wrong to give or help out your loved ones when the need arises, but we should not feel that those privileges are our rights. Thoughts like these give rise to envy and hatred, which leads to murder is some extreme cases.

Unfortunately, I see a lot of children and adults with this entitlement mentality. I can even pardon children, although I still believe they should be checked, because if left unchecked, they would grow up into adults with the same mentality. We raise children who feel everything should be handed to them, with no sense of responsibility whatsoever, and we're always quick to make excuses for them, after-all they're still children. Know that those excuses you keep making only encourages them to be more irresponsible. Your family members and friends do not owe you anything. An employee once told me his boss was a wicked man because he(the employee) hadn't built a house since he started working for his boss. Imagine that! I asked his if his boss paid his salary as and when due, he said yes; then why did he feel his boss should build a house for him, just because he is a rich man? See how our mind works sometimes? The government owes us, our brother/relative owes us, our children/parents owe us, even God owes us, and we refuse to acknowledge the fact that we should take responsibility and stop with the unrealistic expectations from people. 

What people do for you is a privilege, not a right!

In other news, I wish to implore that we should be careful of the information we share on social media, especially inciteful ones, and more especially if you're a public figure or a celebrity with large followership. Don't share misleading or false information online without proper verification. We know that such information are quick to go viral, and any retraction done later will not attract as much publicity. 

Have a blessed and productive week ahead. Work hard and you will be rewarded.

Peace...