Complexities of complexes

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Can we talk about inferiority and superiority complexes today? It's actually been on my mind for a while now and whenever I wanted to write about it, something else would grab my attention instead, but not today. Now, the scholarly definition of inferiority complex explains it as a feeling of inadequacy and lack of self-worth, while superiority complex is seen as a defence mechanism to cover up an inferiority complex. In other words, the individual already feels inadequate to others, and in order to make up for that feeling, he tends to act superior to others so as to cover up the inferiority complex. Hmmmm....

One thing is certain, both complexes aise as a result of lack of early social communion. How?

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A child that never socialises with other children, is spoilt or neglected will most likely develop these complexes as he/she grows up. Individuals with inferiority complex are those ones quick to deny their self-worth, you know those ones whom when you flatter or compliment, would never agree with you? Yep, they just are likely suffering from inferiority complex. They don't handle criticism well and see it as a personal attack, never want to participate in any competition because they already believe they'd lose, or feel they're never good enough. Also, those that change their accents once they see oyibo people, or even fellow Nigerians who have lived abroad for so long and have acquired a foreign accent, are also suffering from inferiority complex, in my opinion. Have you seen the way they fawn over foreigners at the airports and other places in Nigeria? I mean, you'd be there waiting to get served by a stony-faced customer care official, but once an oyibo man or woman comes, they're all perky and full of smiles. If that isn't a sign of inferiority complex, I don't know what is. 

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In relationships, the person with inferiority complex is often the one trying to act all superior in order to cover up or feel adequate. Those with exaggerated superiority complexes can act out aggressively when they don't get their way, and they're often the type to shove their opinion down your throat. They're arrogant, haughty, brash, snobbish, and always look for faults in other people, because as far as they're concerned, they are the best thing that happened to humanity since fried plantain. A person with superiority complex feels great when  he makes others feel inferior, but as we can understand, it's all an act to mask his own inferiority complex. So, next time you see that arrogant prick who derives pleasure in putting others down, just pity him/her because they're battling with demons of inferiority complex.

However, there is hope for people suffering from these complexes. Since it is established that an inferiority complex gives rise to a superiority complex, the best solution would be to tackle that inferiority complex, right? Yea, I think so too. First of all, you need to understand why you feel inferior, it has already been established that it stems from childhood experiences, you would need to find out if it's as a result of social exclusion, or being put down by people for years. Also find out the kind of people you feel inferior to, then  you stop comparing yourself to those people; there is nothing wrong with aspiring to be like someone or being inspired by someone, but do not want to be that person. Don't worry too much about what others think and focus on your positive qualities, we all have them, don't focus on the bad ones. Moreover, know that nobody is perfect. We're all battling different demons, we just don't let them control us or take over our emotions. 

Enjoy ya day!!

Peace...