Are We All Hypocrites?

You know why I feel I'm not the best person to ask for advice, especially on life-related issues? I'd most likely do things differently if I were really in your shoes, different from the advice I'd give you. Now, does that make me a hypocrite? I don't know, but let's look at it.

People say you see things more clearly when you're emotionally detached from the situation, meaning that you're able to reason more rationally if it is not about you, right? This means that you could probably rattle on about things you'd do if so and so happens to you, but when you actually find yourself in that situation you would not be able to do those things. 

Earlier on in the week there was a story about a Nigerian relationship coach who offers relationship advice on Facebook and her blog to a whole lot of women on how to keep their marriages, getting divorced for the second time. Now people have called her a hypocrite, deceiving women whereas she was doing something different in her own matrimonial home, and questioned how she could advise women when she has had two failed marriages.

Well, it may surprise many of us, but relationship coaches and therapists have quite a high rate of divorce! Yes! You then wonder why they cannot fix their own marriages but are able to help others fix theirs, right? Could it be that thing about not seeing things clearly if your emotions are invested in it? Could it be that the errors in their own lives help them understand relationships better?

This is the same reason why we always tell Pastors and Priests to practice what they preach on the Pulpit, but we know that is rarely the case in real life. A lot of us are actually like this, we advise one thing and when the tables turn we do a whole different thing. You know how you think you know what to in a particular situation until you find yourself in that situation, then you realise you can't do sh*t (pardon my French).

Does that make us all hypocrites?

At the end of the day, do you! Know that what works for me might not work for you, and what is applicable in my situation might not be applicable to you. Find what works for you and stick to it.